Monday, April 09, 2007

Grown sons......

I can't begin to tell you how wonderful they are.

The first time I really became aware of the fact that my boys were all grown up was at Seth's graduation from basic and AIT. We all traveled to Fort Sill for the occasion. I stood there surrounded by Ken and my three sons, and they all towered a head taller than me. Suddenly, I felt very small, but I felt something else, too. I remember wondering, "When did they get so tall? When did they become young men? How did I miss that transformation? Seth has only been gone for a few months, why does he seem so much older and taller? Surely, he wasn't that tall before he left......or was he???" I listened as Kevin gave Seth tips on military life and deployment like he was an old salt or something. "When did Kevin become an advisor for his little brother? They used to fight constantly." I noticed a smile on Rick's face as he talked to his two younger brothers like they were his best friends. "When did that change? When I used to tell them that some day they'd be best friends, they'd look at me horrified. When did they all become such good friends and not just brothers???" My very next feeling was an overwhelming sensation of pride and joy.

This picture was taken in one of those photo booths at a mall in Lawton, Oklahoma, the weekend Seth graduated . . . the very weekend I realized my little boys were no longer little. They were men . . . and they were good, decent men. I love this picture (sketch) because it reminds me of that day and that moment.

You might say that weekend was the end of an era......and the beginning of an amazing transition to being the mother of grown sons.

I used to worry about them all the time . . . well, that hasn't really changed . . . . . . :) But what has changed is that now they worry about me. For example, a week ago on Friday, we had a terrible storm blow through Dallas and it took out our flagpole . . . bent it right in half. We found our flags in the neighbor's tree, still attached to the flagpole, the next morning. I called Rick to see if he could come by to help us get the bent pole down from the tower. He was pretty busy fixing internet problems all around Dallas that had been caused by the storm . . . working on Saturday . . . and had been at it since early that morning. So, I told him not to worry about it, I'd use one of the safety belts he'd left at the house to climb the tower and take down the flags and the bent pole. I wasn't about to let Ken do it because of his gimpy leg from the motorcycle accident two years ago. Besides, I've always been a tomboy and can do that kind of thing. Rick said, "No, don't do that. I'll come by when I get done with work and do it. You don't need to climb that tower." I laughed and made a comment about him thinking his mom was too old to climb a tower. He just said to wait and let him do it. It was so sweet, he was worried about me . . . . . :) Well, I did go up on the roof to rescue the flags, then Ken and I ran errands. When we got home that afternoon, Rick was on the roof lowering the pole into the yard. He had climbed that tower before we got home and taken the bent flagpole down. I couldn't help but grin as I got out of the truck.

Another example is what happened last week. A couple of strange men popped into my office who had no business being there. I don't work in a public store or the like, I work in a small two-person editorial office. The only people who are supposed to come into the office are people from UPS, FedEx, the US mail, etc. Get my drift? Both of these men said they were just looking around . . . for what we're not sure . . . but we called security on both of them. We're on the 5th floor of a large bank building . . . people don't just wander in off the street . . . at least not until last week. Both encounters were weird and unnerving because of the mens' demeanors. One was, I think, fairly harmless. I believe he was just curious about our magazine. But the other one was an ex-con who was supposed to be on the 3rd floor at an employment agency that specializes in finding jobs for ex-cons. What he was doing on the 5th floor coming in our office is beyond me, but my boss was sure he was up to no good. Two weird encounters in one week . . . the first time in the 7 years that I've worked there . . . and now my boss gone for the week . . . which means I'm the only one in the office. Anyway, Ken and I met Rick for our standing Wednesday night dinner date and I told Rick about the two visitors and how I was going to be on my own this week. Rick said, "You need to keep the door locked any time you're there by yourself." I expected that reaction from Ken, but here was my oldest boy, whom I still worried about, worrying about me. I couldn't help but smile!!!

Seth and Katie didn't make it in this weekend. They were both sick last week and still weren't feeling quite up to the drive. But Kevin came in, and he and Rick helped us put up a new flagpole and finally get our flags flying over the house again. Rick was on the roof with a rope tied to the tower to help lower it; Kevin and Ken stood beneath the tower and walked it down slowly to keep it from falling. My job . . . keep the puppies from getting in the way while they were working and keep them in the yard while the gate was open. Well, I did attach the flags and tie off the rope once everything was back in place . . . . . lol.

It's a hard thing sometimes to let my boys be the men around the house, and let them handle a lot of the tasks I've been doing myself or have done for them all these years . . . but it makes my heart sing to see the kind of men they've turned out to be . . . . . . :)


Blogger Stacy said...

Yes it is nice when they start worrying about us. CAn put a huge smile on our faces. I have ask for a real flag pole for my birthday this year. I am so hoping that I get that wish. I have one that is just attached to my bell pole, but I want the real thing.

4/10/07, 5:49 AM  
Blogger Call Me Grandma said...

What a nice looking bunch of sons. Sons rock! says another mother of sons.

4/10/07, 9:27 AM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Them growing into such wonderful adults is the sign that they had a great mom! :)

4/10/07, 11:34 AM  
Blogger Charla said...

Awww,that's such a sweet post, kbug! I TOTALLY agree with Michelle, they obviously grew up in a loving home with two terrific parents!! Talk to ya later!!!

4/11/07, 3:10 PM  
Blogger michelle said...

You have a beautiful family and call it hormones but it made me cry to hear all the pride and love you have for your boys....

4/12/07, 5:12 PM  
Blogger Sue said...

What a lovely post. And 3 very handsome sons. You must be so proud. It IS wonderful to see them getting along as though they've been best friends for all of their lives.
blessings my friend.

4/16/07, 9:41 AM  
Blogger Courtney said...

Ok I'm crying! How sweet. I have said it before & say it again. You are a heck of a mom!

4/17/07, 8:20 AM  
Blogger vanessa said...

Wow its been a long time this post is even old but only now am i reading it!LOL
I love it though its like i am looking into the future when my boys will be thier age. It gives me hope that one day they will be that close because THEY want to be.I have to remeber this as i break up fights and yell at they to be nice to each other! Thank you for sharing your love for them.

5/2/07, 4:53 AM  
Blogger MarineMom said...

Thanks for your comment and support kbug.

I loved this particualr blog you wrote btw. Isn't it amazing how we raise our children to grow up and be outstanding, fine adults but then when we realize they 9or we) have actually achieved that we are surprised! hehe ... I still have a hard time not thinking of my 6'4" Marine as my baby boy!

Your sons sound great! You are a lucky mom!

hugs to you,
Tami (MarineMom)

5/2/07, 7:30 AM  
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5/17/07, 11:59 AM  
Blogger Debbi (no 'e' on the end) said...

You put a tear in my eye...your son's sound awesome....all 3 of em. I got my flag pole for Mother's Day this year from my darling hubby. Son is in the Army & just finished AIT. We are waiting for the next part of this journey. Take care!

6/18/07, 6:06 PM  

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